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Should a grieving family be allowed to place a memorial for a loved one alongside the road, in front of someone else's house, without their permission?

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Melissa
Administrator

While I can understand the homeowners desire not to be reminded everyday of the tragic accident Deb and John must live everyday without Mikey.  So I would hope that the homeowners could overcome their anger and find peace with what is just a final chapter on a young mans life.  Watching the news with the lady screaming in the background just reminded me of a very uncaring and unfeeling women.  Not willing to give the grieving family a chance to move on. May God give her family peace to allow this to be placed without anymore confrontation.

i think that people are just crule. what if one of there loved ones has passed away, wouldnt you want a memorial were it happened? of course , so why would you even remotly consider treating someone ees family and friends wrongly by tearing this memorial site down. there are many memorial sites along roads and to be honest no one was as selfish and rude and took them down becasue they couldnt bear to see it. dont they relize that it is the only comfort some people have left, the last memory and the last thoughts that they will ever have with a peson, is at their memorial.

Put their cross on their on yard and grieve there

 I  wouldn't want to be reminded everyday that someone died infront of my home. That said, while I feel for the family I wouldn't want such a large cross right in front of my home.  I could accept it more if it were about 2 or 3 feet high.

Barb 

My heart goes out to this grieving family. I really don't see the big ordeal with placing this memorial for their son. The people who lives there are being really ridiculous!!! They probably paid no mind to that particular area of their land, until someone wanted to pay tribute to someone with a small memorial. I could understand if it was some God-awful huge demonstration, but give me a break. The lady screaming like a mad-woman just lets everyone know just what type of people they are. I don't wish bad things to them, but what goes around, comes around. What are they going to do if they lose someone? My thoughts are with the family, and hope to see the memorial back where it belongs. To the people who live there - I hope you can sleep at night knowing you're going to go to Hell.

One has to appreciate the feeling of the homeowner, I believe they should have been asked, but, ultimately, that is not technically their property. That cross/memorial may bring some peace to that young man's family and friends. I have driven past the spot my brother died nearly every day for the last 10 years as have many of his friends and other members of our family. The cross we had erected and flowers we had planted have comforted us, to know he has not been forgotten. Everyone grieves in a different way, but I think it is a great way for someone to be remembered. 

I think if its not on there property they have no reason to touch it, it has nothing to do with those people it gives the family closer i should know mike labe has been a part of my family for 4 yrs my son nathan labe loved mike more than anything in this world and the same with mike, they were buddies and to disrespect our family is so hurtful and i just cant believe someone would be so cold to do something so wrong, there is nothing we can do to stop them, it just hurts so bad to know how cold people can be in this time of grief. they should put into perspective how would they feel if it was the other way around.

Deb & John went throught the correct channels and had the towships ok to put the memorial up, YES they should be allow to have the cross put up for Mikey. That is the last place that Mike was alive.  After the ceremony at the site the whole family started to heal and those people just ripped their hearts out all over again.  Put up the cross it is for Mikey not anyone else.

the other people destroyed the only place i can talk to my brother and now i have nothing im not the only one that was planning on talking to him there he has many friends who would love to meet with him there the landowners are just thinking of themselves and not the family at all...so what if they have to see it everyday they'll get over it.. this situation hurt alot of people both friends and family

It is a common practice to place a memorial at the accident spot, but we should use compasion not only for the friends and family of the person but also for the people that have to see it.  My brother was killed 3 years ago in a car accident on 22 and at first the memorial made me feel good, but now when his loved ones drive by it is like a dagger reminding you of that awful time!!  It is sad that the homeowners can't bear to see that but they have rights also.  Someone should talk to them and maybe a compromise can be made for a smaller memorial.  Lets try to be adults and think about everyones feelings.

There is nothing to compare with the loss of a child, and only those who have known such a tragedy
can truly understand their sorrow.
I'm on the families side, let them have the memorial .
I just wonder how the homeowners would feel if  the situation were reversed.

You have to side with the property owner. There are to many of the roadside memorials that are left unkept and exposed to weather. Then it becomes a problem for someone else to pick up or a litter crew.

While I respect the pain and suffering of the family,I still oppose "Roadside Memorials". No sign,no memorial,no vigil ,ever brings about closure.  As long as one has a memory or an emotion,there can never be closure.  I believe that folks have a need to share their grief,but to foist it on others is not the way.  Yes,even in grief and sorrow many still seek personal attension.  Cemeteries are designed for private memorials and praying. That's where they should stay.   Just how long should roadside memorials remain?  Forever?

Actually roadside memorials should remain up forever! If the township told them they can put it up then they have the right to!!! He doesnt have a grave that friends and family can go to therefore the perfect reason to have a roadside memorial...it was disrespectful for the homeowners to rip it out of the ground after the love and time that was put into making that cross...everyone who attened his viewing/funeral signed that cross with memories and such of mikey. The memorial should be put back up ASAP!