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Mellisa, I watched you station this cross looks very big. It looks about 6'by5'. That is a chunk of land. Think about that in your front yard.

Yeah, its like everyone who places these things has to out do the last person.  If the family had put some small, tasteful memorial out, I doubt this would be an issue.

If people are going to insist on doing this everytime someone is killed in an auto accident, then I imagine that Zoning laws in municipalities should be updated to prevent excess like this.

 

Why we need to go to these lenghts, is beyond me.

BORROR:

I am part of the family and everyone else has a memorial, why shouldn't michael.  I think you are disgusting for writing such hateful things.  Let the family alone in there time of grief.  How would you feel if somthing like this happend to you?  Would you want people calling you disgusting? 

It's false to say everyone else has a memorial.  Some people don't place any.
Second, you confuse situations where you are not bothering anyone who lives nearby with this case where you clearly are.  Just because some people put a memorial in a remote area doesn't make it OK to put one in front of someone's property.  Just because some people may have received the owner's permission doesn't make it OK for you to proceed without the owner's permission.

I would love to leave the family alone.  The problem arise because the family will not leave the property owner alone.  They are forcing this memorial in front of the property.

If this tragedy happened to me, I simply would not place a public memorial.  I don't think they are right.  What you seem to miss is that the people who live there have to see this memorial all the time.  The family only sees it when they drive by or visit.  The owner can't use that portion of the land anymore because it's too depressing.  You can leave when it's too depressing.  The property owner cannot.

As far as describing people as disgusting, I cannot rectify your second and last sentences.  It looks like you are complaining about people calling you disgusting while calling me disgusting.  I don't understand that.

I feel the homeowner needs to think of Michael's family and friends. I understand they were the first people on the scene of the accident and I am very thankful to them, our daughter was the driver of the car. We all want a place to Memorialize Michael, he was a good kid, full of life and laughter. The homeowner needs to remember one day they may need something from a neighbor or a stranger.

BORROR:

I NEVER SAID IT WAS MORE IMPORTANT.  BUT IF THAT HAPPEND TO SOMEONE ON MY LAND, I WOULD GLADLY LET THEM PUT UP A CROSS AND HAVE NO PROBLEM DOING THAT.  YES I AM GLAD THE MAN CAME DOWN TO TRY TO HELP, BUT HOW DO YOU THINK THE FAMILY FEELS?  IF THIS IS WHAT IS GOING TO GIVE THEM PEACE WELL THEN LET IT BE!

If you wish to give permission for your land, go right ahead.  No one is telling you not to. 

How about a little of the golden rule.  If we are to consider how Mikey's family feels, the family should consider how the property owner feels.

First off, I understand that your daughter was his Girlfriend?  If that is true(or at any rate) I am deeply sorry.  I can't imagine the pain you must feel to see your daughter hurt this much.  she is truly in my prayers.

With that said, why on earth would you ever allow your daughter to go near that spot again?  Don't you see how self destructive it is?  You need to teach her to cherish the love and LIFE she had with him. Not the pain and misery of his last breath.

This is why we have cemetaries, to recall the life we shared with the dead, not to rehash the pain of their death.  Plant a tree somewhere that was special to the two of them and let her tend it and watch it grow and live for this boy that was so loved by so many.

God bless.

kathysue812:

I feel the homeowner needs to think of Michael's family and friends. I understand they were the first people on the scene of the accident and I am very thankful to them, our daughter was the driver of the car. We all want a place to Memorialize Michael, he was a good kid, full of life and laughter. The homeowner needs to remember one day they may need something from a neighbor or a stranger.

So now, showing up on the accident scene and providing real help isn't good enough if they need help themselves.  If they don't acquiesce, you treat them as uncaring, unhelpful people.  This is just wrong.

I  think a tree is a great idea. The students can plant it on school property.Adding on to this comment why not put the cross in the school parking lot to remind the kids the responsibility of getting behind the wheel. Maybe this family could give a yearly lecture about driving to the student body. Everybody knows the most dangerous time of the day is when school leaves out.

A tree on the school property would be wonderful.

Also, a scholarship fund(doesn't need to be alot of money) would be a sweet way to memorialize him.

$500 a year to a college bound senior is always a welcome gift, and would keep him in the thoughts of students for years to come.

If the family does in fact need to have ties to the exact spot of the boy's demise, why not use the municipality's adopt-a road program.  They all have them.  A sign would be erected, memorializing the boy, and a good thing will be done in the process.

 

With some thought, the issue surrounding this Memorial could be rectified.

Adopt a road is a great idea. For a required driver ed project the students can clean the road once a month .They are the ones who need to be reminded of  the priveledge of driving. This could go to all local schools.

steph labe:

the other people destroyed the only place i can talk to my brother and now i have nothing 

talk to your brother in your heart and in your prayers where
it matters most.

talking to a piece of wood won't prove a thing.

Maybe the driver ed students can have aValentine Dance to raise schlorship money.The family can go to graduation  and present the schlorship. The schlorship my son recieved was from an agriculture student who graduated in the early 1900's.

mamaol:

steph labe:

the other people destroyed the only place i can talk to my brother and now i have nothing 

talk to your brother in your heart and in your prayers where
it matters most.

talking to a piece of wood won't prove a thing.

i think you should watch what you say to my niece ok

for one don't tell a kid how to deal with death every one has thier own way of dealing with this and if

this is how we deal with this then let us be

I AGREE 100% WITH BETHSCHOTT LET DEAL WITH THIS IN THERE OWN WAY AND LET THEM BE !!

I started reading all the many responses and decided that, one... some people are heartless cause even if this is about roadsde memorials,some of the comments were very unnessesary,people just lost a son,a brother,an uncle,a granchild,a nephew,a boyfriend and a friend and they are greiving,it hurts to lose someone you love and comments other than your opinon on roadside memorials are very disrespectful some of you need to grow up..second.. i realize its not going to matter what you or i have to say,if you did not go to the little meeting where the township agreed to it ,who are you to say it dosent belong and if you dont know the area and realize its not on their property then maybe you need to get the facts first and yes it might be a reminder to them but they will eventualy be able to get over it and get on with their lives,it wont be so easy for the labes to do that,i feel the main cause of this whole thing was the people that live there took it upon themselves to take it down,they could have had a heart and conntacted the labes and come up with a compromise... them taking this in their own hands was wrong,i am all for it and it dosent matter if your christian or catholic or atheist,whatever your choice is, we all have hearts and we all lose someone at some point in our lives ,we all greif differently so put yourself a side for once and think of how other people feel...RIP Mikey!!!!