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Roadside Memorials

Last post 06-17-2008, 8:12 AM by getreal99. 230 replies.
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  •  02-18-2008, 5:41 PM 2559033 in reply to 2558599

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    I truly feel a heartfelt sympathy for Michael's family. A special note for his family: please do not take this in a personal way. The person that lives in that house is very unhappy and this is their way of venting it. When we pray for Michael, we must remember this other family in our prayers. In the meantime, why don't you make a special place for the cross and angels in your yard as a memorial in his name. Where you can always see it, place a fresh bouqet of flowers and not fear it being destroyed. Michael would like that too. May the Lord bless everyone involved in this period of sadness.

                                                       Pam B.

  •  02-18-2008, 5:42 PM 2559043 in reply to 2558599

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    The right of way that was set aside is for the township and the state governments to use for utility right of ways and for the widening of the road as well as the placement of signs for traffic flow not for every bozo who wants to distract drivers with memorials that belong in a cemetary.  Buy a burial plot and place a memorial there not on someone else's property.  Yes, the only time some bozo can use the side of the road set aside for the utility and widening of the road is if the municipality has widened the road.  It is land that a property owner pays taxes upon.  I am sick of the ridiculous littering of sidewalks and roadsides with memorials for the victims of what is usually, but not always, their own Stupidity.  If you want to use someone's land, then ask if you can rent it for the duration of your need to distract drivers with your display of grief that belongs in a cemetary.
  •  02-18-2008, 5:43 PM 2559048 in reply to 2558599

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    I feel that the home owner should look at it from the familys point of view what if  it were there son that  was killed in  a car accident. Then they wouldnt be acting this way. What is happening to the people in the world today? We have people fighting in a war too but some people are so quick to judge, but fail to remember what they gave up for us to fight for our country. So let this family morn the child they have lost its not hurting the home owners that live near by to see that cross its not even on there property stop the madness!!!!
  •  02-18-2008, 5:44 PM 2559059 in reply to 2558599

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    the landowners should just let them put the cross up how would they feel if it happened to them.....PUT THE CROSS UP! you got the permisson to put it back up so do it let them yell so what you won the battle and the war
  •  02-18-2008, 5:45 PM 2559069 in reply to 2558599

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    While my heart aches for the greiving family, I detest roadside memorials. I don't know who started this whole morbid process of placing memorials by the roadside but it's definitely gotten out of hand.  The homeowners should not be subjected to having a "grave marker" placed in front of their property forever and ever.  I don't mean to sound cruel, but aren't cemetaries for grieving?    If I want to grieve for a loved one or put up some type of memorial (flowers, crosses, wreaths), that's where I go and that's where I believe they belong.  Let's not make our highways into future grave markers.  Lets get death and our grieving in some type of perspective and keep it in our cemetaries where it belongs; not on our roadways.
  •  02-18-2008, 5:48 PM 2559075 in reply to 2559001

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    You could not have said it any better, sailor944 and responder, and I'm in complete agreement with both of you.  The roadside memorials are morbid, and as a homeowner, I would not want one on my property.  Within a relatively short amount of time, those that I pass by on a daily basis are now grungy and dirty .. they are not memorials, they are eyesores.  Let's return to memorializing our loved ones in cemetaries .. not on a roadside.
  •  02-18-2008, 5:49 PM 2559081 in reply to 2559043

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    if anyone is a bozo it would people who disrespect other people in there time of grieving some people dont have alot of money to buy a plot, some people get cremated and first of in no way was it mike's fault or his g/f it was an accident thats why its called an accident i can not believe people. mikey was my friend and loved one to disrespect my family you are disrespecting me, so you have ur opinions but the fact is law is on our side and it will go up and no matter what they do we will still keep putting it back up until mikey is layed to rest. RIP MIKEY!!!
  •  02-18-2008, 5:51 PM 2559085 in reply to 2558599

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    Yes i believe that the family should be allowed to have a memorial where Micky died. Let them grieve in piece.  Tina
  •  02-18-2008, 6:08 PM 2559155 in reply to 2558599

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    According to the homeowner's wife, he was first on the scene at the accident and the memorial brings back bloody images he would not like to be reminded of every time he enters his driveway.   Why can't the victim's family understand that while their memorial is to the young man life, it will bring very constant, unhappy memories to the homeowner of the young man's tragic and horrible death.   Can't the family and friends find a less harmful use for their time and money - perhaps donating time and/or money to the young man's favorite cause?   
  •  02-18-2008, 6:13 PM 2559175 in reply to 2558599

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    Ladies and gentlemen i'm a little puzzled that your audience is to inform you which family  ... has a greater claim, has a greater loss,   ((  ??  ))  in the very regrettable death of the Labe family member and friend.
     
    Listen.   There are moral imperatives we must try to live by, imperatives far greater than we can really understand right now.  Let's not choose sides, but quickly agree between and among the parties that a tremendous, very painful loss has occurred and that both families are in need of considerable healing.  So, let us mourn the loss of the young man and allow the site family their scenery, their homestead.  Who can argue either family has the greater claim ?  Let us ask the decedent, would he prefer folks, including his own kin, be all torn up, still, again, over his too-soon death ? 
     
    Let us trim the dimensions of the well-intended memorial, to possibly better 'fit' the sloping course of the immediate terrain, further within the Township's right of way (closer to the roadway) and add permanent vegetation, some perennial goodies, some stone to serve both the grieving family and the site family with their constant reminder.  I carry a Holy Cross with me at all times, for my personal comfort and protection; but it's not that large.  Something smaller, softer, more natural that includes all the farewells and good byes intended for Mr. Labe.  And more locations, such as a school, a place of worship, to be more visible, much more apparent to observers and loved ones.......places where Mr. Labe was most comfortable and enjoyed his life here the most.
     
    Let us learn to live peaceably, so that all concerned may be more at ease, living with loss.
     
    Possibly the Township can broker such a peace for us.
     
    Thank you very much.
  •  02-18-2008, 6:32 PM 2559262 in reply to 2558599

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    Permission should have been asked for prior to setting up a memorial. In  time this young man's family would realize that their precious son is in heaven and they no longer need to see the area where his short life ended. I have seen it several times, that poor family and friends are in shock and they assumed that it was O.K., they were wrong but not through ignorance through grief. When my seventeen year old nephew was murdered by a drunk driver my family asked permission to set up the memorial but sometimes we assume that the circumstances surrounding the death is enough for us to show our LOVE for the LOST. Please permit the family to express themselves for the time being and in time through love and support of friends this family and their friends will accept heaven as his final resting place and not a front yard.
  •  02-18-2008, 6:37 PM 2559286 in reply to 2559262

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    People need to understand is that its not there property the cross was 2 inches away from there property line so  they had no right to touch it.
  •  02-18-2008, 6:39 PM 2559297 in reply to 2559155

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    sullyo said it very well.
  •  02-18-2008, 6:42 PM 2559311 in reply to 2559297

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    It is there property and they pay taxes on it.  It is called the right of way which means the township can use it.  The homeowner still "ownes " it.  That really isn't the point anyway.  Things are way out hand and to many people are hurt, everyone should give it a few days and then review it in an adult manor!!
  •  02-18-2008, 6:46 PM 2559332 in reply to 2559311

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    It will be put back up so there really isnt anything anyone can say or do...

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